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Here are questions and answers from the last six months.
All questions are answered by Dr.
Carmen Guanipa unless otherwise indicated. Older questions can be
found in the Answers Archive. Comments and shared stories can be found
on the Sharing Multicultural Experiences page.
Q: The Deaf Hispanic Club from Texas
School for the Deaf would like to know correspond with other Hispanic
clubs high school. Do you know of any places in Texas or other states
that we can get in touch with? Thank you, Elena and Marty, Deaf Hispanic
Club Sponsors. (Sep 2,1999)
A: We are not aware of any clubs right now. You can try the Keypals,
Chats, and links to the Online Community hotlist. You can also try
your local public library. Often the reference staff will already be
working with the Braille Institute or other groups and may have a contact
for you. Either way, the Internet and other forms of electronic communication
are providing exciting opportunities for all members of our society
to interact and collaborate in new, meaningful ways. Good Luck! Amigos
Q: I m not sure this is the place to ask the question, but here
it is. I teach Spanish at the junior high level. I try very hard to
validate each student by meeting the learning styles of each. Some of
my wannabee and/or actual gang members are very artistically talented.
I would like to more adequately use their skills in our classroom. I
would like to have art activities that relate to the study of Spanish
culture to promote this. Question: Can you suggest a source for Arts/Crafts
relating to the Spanish culture, ie pinatas, flowers, pottery. (Aug
A: Many places throughout the U.S. are experiencing a growing
Hispanic/Latino population. In response, school and public libraries
are purchasing books and other materials that are of special interest
to Hispanics or are about their cultures. You can call your local public
library and find out if they have materials there, or if they can order
them through InterLibrary Loan. Here are some Internet resources that
you might also find helpful: Hot
Internet Sites en Espanol and Algunos
Lugares en Espanol. Amigos Staff.
Q: Are all hispanic guys babes? (Aug 22, 1999)
A: Yes! Amigos Staff :)
Q: Carmen, This question may sound a bit strange...but since
all my friends are interested in taking those photo stickers, I wanna
know why it has become such a trend... (Aug 22, 1999)
A1: Dear Amigo User, I am not sure. The stickers are not my favorites,
they have some glue that could be addictive, and do not smell good to
my taste. Thus I prefer not to recomend them. Drawing on paper may be
more fun. I would like to congratulate you for not following the trend.
It is important to reflect upon what this means to you and what are
the benefits or limitations of doing what others do. I am glad you are
very responsible and look for information and understand that you have
choices. We do not have to do what others do. Great job, keep in touch.
A2: Dear Amigos User, I like photo stickers. I think they are
cute. My daughter exchanges them with her friends and relatives. She
also puts them on her notebook and draws around them. She has a special
notebook for other stickers. Her teacher puts the photo stickers on
bookmarks and other things throughout the year, then I put them on my
refrigerator with a magnet. These stickers do not require glue, they
have their own adhesive on the back. I noticed that my son never really
liked the stickers; but my daughter certainly does. Amigos Staff.
Q: IM NOT TRYING TO BE DISCUSTING BUT YOU SHOLD REALLY TALK ABOUT
PUBERTY, SEX, ORGASIMS AND STUFF (Aug 18, 1999)
A1: Thank you very much for your suggestions. We are not sex
therapists. There is an organization called "The American Association
of Sex Therapists" that specializes on the subject. You may want
to contact them. We will write an essay on puberty, following your suggestions.
Look for it in the Carmen Says section of
the Amigos website soon. Thanks again, Regards, Carmen.
A2: Here are some websites that might interest you:
Directory On-Line (ADOL) includes information and links to conflict,
violence, ADHD, eating disorders, depression, adolescent development,
and other issues related to the psychological well-being of teens,
alcohol and other drugs, obesity, AIDS, sexuality, acne, and Counselor
Q&A Question and answer site designed for teens on the following
topics: breast size, height, sexual feelings, love, is it normal?,
am I gay?, pregnant if...? , underarm hair and more.
Ask Alice from Healthwise, the Health Education and Wellness program
of the Columbia University Health Service. Includes resources on fitness
and nutrition, alcohol and drugs, sexuality and emotional well-being.
Society_and_Culture/Age_Groups/Teenagers. Includes resources such
as Advice, Chat, Girls, Investment Guides, Literature, Magazines,
Organizations, Pregnancy, Puberty, Sports,Teen Court and Usenet.
Q: I'm Stephen and I have just admitted that I am GAY. Can you
give me any advice? (Jul 1, 1999)
A: Dear Stephen, Thank you very much for sharing your very personal
feeling about yourself with me. It is very important for your well-being
to be true to yourself and you have taken a big step in that direction.
Right now it may be very helpful for you to have someone to share your
feelings and questions. By doing this you will receive supoort and validation
for being YOU. If you would provide us with your geographic location,
we can send you a referral list of persons whom you may be able to see
and the contact information for a Lesbian and Gay Center nearest to
you. You also can contact the www.apa.org or the www.aamft.org they
will be able to provide information about psychologists or family therapists.
They can be there to support you. I wish you all the best, and please
keep in touch. Dr. Guanipa.
Q: Dear Carmen, I have a boyfriend who is hispanic Ecuador I
love him alot but I don't know how his family would respond to a him
having a black girlfriendme he wants me to come visit his family but
im scared to meet them because im afraid they won t like me because
of my race i was told that hispanics where less excepting of interracial
relationships between hispanics and blacks is that true? What should
do? P.S Im engaged to him. (June 8, 1999)
A: Dear Amigos's User, Thank you for contacting the Amigos. I
believe that his family probably wants him to be happy. He is able to
accept and love people from different cultures, so I will go with the
belief that he may have learned some of this inclusion with his family.
He loves you and he is there for you. I will say to you be the wonderful
self that I am sure you are and make sure they know that you love him
very much and let them know that you would like to know them and love
Many families may have this lack of acceptance
but in general there is always someone in the family that is not that
way, so enjoy all the people that accept you and have fun with them.
Remember, they will be your family too, and part of being a family is
showing love. We need to accept who they are and learn to live with
them. Try to remember that always for parents It may be difficult to
accept anyone who is taking their children away, so do not react to
this if this happened.
Love them, have fun, he loves you and he
is going to be there for you. Go with a positive and open mind. Do not
take things personally. You will have time to develop a good relationship.
It is important to be calm and do not expect all at once. Keep loving
each other and value and respect his family. Try to remember that you
may have different ideas and different levels of education in the issue.
You can help them if you work constructively with them. You can learn
from each other. I hope this helps, and the best of luck. Keep in touch
and let me know how this went. Carmen.
Q: Carmen I have this question that is often asked to me. What
is Hispanic. I am a Hispanic teen. I was adopted and would like to know
what I should say to answer their question. (June 14, 1999 )
A: Hispanic is any one who speaks Spanish and come from any country
who first language is Spanish. Some people depending on their history
prefer to have other definitions. For example, Mexican, some prefer
to be called Chicanos or Latinos. Hispanic is also a race of multi-ethnicities.
They are hard workers, honest, and wonderful people! I hope this is
helpful. There is some literature oin the Hispanic culture that may
be helpful for you to read. You can do a computer search at your library.
Q: Hi. It's nice to find a web like this, I congratulate you.
I'm 18 years old and I live in Mexico, but I like to have friend in
internert all over the world What can I do? Help me please. (Jun 18,
A: We get this question all the time. Amigos is not the place
to find email buddies or to meet people. We created a list of places
that you might try called "Keypals,
Chats, and links to the Online Community." Good luck with your
Internet adventures and remember to be careful. Amigos Staff.
Q: Hello Carmen, I was just wondering. Where are you from? I
just found this place and i would like to know where some people are
from.(May 25, 1999)
A: When we started this website, we thought that most of our
users would be from California. We have found that our Amigos friends
are from all over the world. We actually get more email in Spanish than
in English. The thing is, everyone seems to have similar problems and
concerns, no matter where they are from. Amigos Staff.
Q: I am interested in the quesiton of ethnic identidy among Latino
youth, especially the first and second generations. I have worked in
two Latino churches Chicago and Allentown, PA and have noticed that
the youth do not speak much Spanish, yet the life of the church is in
Spanish. I would like to understand this phenomenon better and its broader
cultural consequences and work to make the church a more hospitable
place for Latino youth. Thank you very much. Chris, student, Lutheran
Theological Seminary at Philadelphia (Apr 19, 1999)
A: Dear Chris, Thank you again for contacting us. I hope things
are going well with the Hispanic youth you are working with. This is
very common. Many reasons exist why this is happening. Acculturation
process sometimes limit the full development of the two ethnic identities.
You can do a nice project with this group, explore ethnic identity with
the adolescent ethnic identity scale and then develop a group activity
with self-awareness exercise to solidify their ethnic identities.
Many parents project their fears of not
speaking the language well to the children, and do not use Spanish at
home, this contributes too. Others are very busy and do not have time
to share the culture with the children. Write again and let me know
how I can be helpful. Dr. Guanipa
Q: Dear Carmen, My name is Rene and I am doing a paper for a
cultural diversity class and I have to explain to a predominantly anglo
audience the Hispanic culture and the beliefs, traditions, etc. Do you
have any information that can help me. (Feb 1, 1999)
Dear Carmen, Hi, my name is Brian, im a Mexican-Ameican teen, and I
have some trouble finding information for my research paper. I have
a senior english class research paper to do. My first draft was really
bad, and earned a poor grade. The topic of my research paper is Latino
Success. It focuses on the Hispanic American community, which includes
statistics, history and success stories of Hispanic Americans in this
country. I am however, finding it hard to find sources. Could you help
me find some resources on the web that I can use as sources to help
me in my research paper?? I need at least 6 sources, and they have to
relate to the topic of Latino Success in the United States. Thank you
for you time, and I hope to hear from you soon. (Feb 10, 1999)
Carmen, I am doing a project on significant
events in American pertaining to Latin Americans. It s supposed to be
in a time-line. Could you help me out? (May 13, 1999)
A: Here are just a few of the requests for homework help that
we receive. Most of the time, we can only refer you back to your school
library or public library. We are unable to assist with research or
homework help. You might want to try the following websites which will
lead you to magazines, newspapers, and other resources for or about
Hispanics: Hot Internet
Sites en Español and Algunos
Lugares en Español. Good Luck. Amigos Staff.
Q:Why don t you spice up your web site a little bit? Thank You.
(3 May 1999)
A:We'd love to spice up our website and make it more useful.
Do you have a more specific suggestion? If you'd like to send
back further comments, we're open to suggestions. Amigos Staff.
Q:i d like to know why there are no famous hispanic models. i
d like to be a model but there are no opportunites for teenage hispanic
girls. i m 5 4 and 134 but the rules of modeling say i have to be 5
7 and up and weigh 105-125. i don t know what to do since i m really
interested in acting and modeling. Please help in any way possible.
(8 Apr 1999)
A:The standards for models have changed somewhat over the last
few years; but in general they all seem to be tall and thin. There are
famous Hispanic models such as Daisy Fuentes (also an MTV-VJ) and the
Brazilian volleyball player, Gabrielle Reese. Acting seems to be an
entirely different matter altogether. You should make a visit to your
local public library and do a search for magazine articles or newspaper
articles. The reference librarian will be glad to help you. There may
be some reference books that will provide information too. Amigos Staff.
Q: Hi Carmen, I m a 35 yo Latina mother, f/t student, etc, etc.
i m doing research on Latino Youth Groups Movement/formerly known as
gangs. aka Latin Kings, Young Lords, La Familia, etc. i was wondering
if you know where and how i can research the history of such PRESENT
day Latino Youth groups? i would use any and all areas of advice on
how to approach this topic, esp. in light of the many labels that we
use or have been labelled: Hispanic, Latino/a, Latin American, etc.
many thanks in advance for for consideration. (2 Apr 1999)
A:This is the kind of question best answered by doing a little
research at a library. Your local public library is the best place to
start. They will have an index to newspaper and magazine articles. They
might also have a guide to Internet sources. Next, you can use the library
at a local college or university. You won't be able to check out materials
unless you join their "Friends of the Library" group; but
you can use the resources there and get free help from the Reference
staff. Make sure that you get the names and contact information for
some national Hispanic organizations so you can contact them for further
information. You might want to look at the web sites lists off of Hot
Internet Sites en Español and Algunos
Lugares en Español. Both of these sites are in English and
list Latino and Hispanic websites. Good Luck! Amigos Staff.
Q: how can i know you answer my question? (31 Mar 1999)
A:Excellent question. Just look at the Answers
page and your answer will be posted on it. This response is on the
Answers page. Unfortunately, we are unable to answer all of the questions.
We do the best that we can. Carmen.
Q: i want to ask you how can i make friend with a person from
another culture. (31 Mar 1999)
A: It is very easy, just be yourself and appreciate the other
person for who he or she is. It will help if you know something about
the other person's culture and language. The most important part of
any relationship is appreciation and respect for each other. Carmen.
Q: I been discriminated by many people and i just wanted to know
how do you feel about being a hispanic? (2 Mar 1999)
A:I feel very proud to be Hispanic here and anywhere in the world
I go. It is a gift that I have and I share with anyone who is willing
to include and accept me. Carmen.
note: Answers older than six months can be found on the Answer
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you would like to share, please do so by using the form on the Sharing
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Periodically, Dr. Carmen Guanipa will be contributing informational
essays based on questions and suggestions that have been sent to us.
This is just a list of the essays, for more information, see Carmen